Thank you all for your help. It was the transfer case,... very much a rookie mistake. I was not paying attention to the linkage connection... the slotted connector was not even all the way on the transfer case 'key'.
I have a bigger and more depressing problem though. When I first had transmission issues I relied on the opinion of a reputable (or highly rated) local transmission shop. They are the ones that told me my transmission was fried. Their estimate is what lead me down the $3k decision to do the job myself. Now I have the new transmission in... and I am having the same experience as before. I do not think my transmission was ever the issue.. I think it was all in my transfer case. I should have come on here with questions on how to diagnose myself. F..... I need a drink and I don't anymore...
It’s okay. You’re past that now. Shake it off and keep moving forward. You will get there if you just keep going forward.
