To say you dont need to change your control arms is a bit of a lie. With what you intend to do, IE NOT rock crawling, but more just mid speed offroad (it's a jeep, they don't really do high speed anything) with some bumps and jumps, your shocks are where you should spend money. Suspension geometry being what it is, you wouldn't benefit much from long arms. The triangulated 4 link rear helps drop some weight from the rear panhard bar but you probably gain it back in link weight so 6 in one hand, half dozen in the other, but it'll be one less thing to bind if you're gonna do any technical offroad stuff.
The main reason you would want long arms is for suspension articulation on rocks and in high flex stuff, at least for the most part. Unless you're doing 80 mph+ off road your factory link geometry even with a 4" lift wouldn't be that bad, I ran my factory links on a 4" lift for rock crawling for 16 years and never really had issue except that I'd eat the ever living shit out of my heims in no time flat and had to replace them like once a year minimum. Long arms give better suspension component life, better articulation, better handling characteristics offroad in high flex. In my case where I'm swapping in 1 tons and building custom suspension to hold it all in, long arms make sense.
If you're gonna be jumping to any real degree (more than a couple inches) your dana 30 front is piss weak and I do recommend a truss, sleeves, or both if you are a belt and suspenders kinda guy like me. Reinforce the links, jumping does like to tear links when you land hard and bottom out. Ask me how I know. Spend money on good shocks, I wouldn't stop short of a good set of fox adjustable bypass, should run you bout 430 per shock if you want good ones with impact dampening for regular bottoming out or 300 ish per without it. The dana 44 rear is a fair bit stiffer and could probably handle jumping and stuff pretty well but if you are triangulating the rear, truss it too while you're in there, hedge your bets.
I'd recommend welding the tubes to the differentials on both over at least 25% (ideally all) of the circumference of the tube (if you're comfortable welding ductile or cast iron, I believe on the 30 and 44 they're both cast iron like the 35, but once you get into dana 60, sterling 10.25/ 10.5, etc they start having ductile and nodular iron housings for more strength over just plain cast iron, trick is preheat, weld with good rod specified for welding to nodular/ ductile/ cast depending on your parent material, post heat and wrap with welding blankets for very slowed cooldown and clean your surfaces really well before welding). It's uncommon with dana axles, but possible, (and very common with sterling, corporate and other axle manufacturers) to spin your tubes in the differential when doing crazy stuff offroad and that makes for a really bad day.
Most anything you find for prebuilt stuff for tjs is mid arm, not really long arm, and for mid arm 2" OD .250 wall lowers is sufficient, if jumping and doing high technical stuff I do recommend 1.75 OD .125 wall upper at least (but I also hedge my bets, and got tube stiffeners from barnes 4wd for all my links as I, once again, like belt and suspenders and it don't cost me much to do it).
It's the internet, the signal to noise ratio is pretty shit, and you'll catch all sorts of flack for asking questions on the internet from guys who rarely contribute meaningfully and are just out to put ya down but there's plenty of good people on these forums too that'll have a lot to teach you. Mr Blaine is a regular of forums and that man is a wealth of knowledge few others in the world of offroad could contend with. Whether it's tj forum, pirate 4x4, or any of the myriad others out there, hang in there, guys will be willing to pass on some knowledge. Just make sure you research really well what they say. Like in this, gotta really know your instant , roll and gravity centers, antisquat/antidive, etc and it helps to understand metallurgy a little bit, like knowing chromoly from ductile from mild, etc.
Keep with it, you'll be ok.