I actually have a pair of aftermarket pre-painted fenders I got off eBay. I sealed all the seams underneath and they are still in perfect shape after 3 years. They seem well made and the fit is great. The paint match isn't perfect (silver in my case), but I'm not too particular.
I think this is the guy I bought it from. I cannot find the receipt which is weird cause I keep all my receipts under lock and key so the boss (wife) can't find them. I think mine was little more expensive because it was painted. They also shipped some touch-up paint.
The insurance party at fault is responsible for finding the parts, its you who has to push them to find OEM parts/reconditioned parts. They will, they just want to cut corners and cost.
It’s their fault, make them fix it right.
Odd to me that the bodyshop cant source an OEM fender for you.
Also, does anyone know how realistic it is to ask for my insurance company to pay me what the body shop estimated and then just buy these parts and do it myself?
The best fenders are OEM, No way around it. Aftermarket stuff isn't even comparable.
Set the expectation that you want to be made whole again. Aftermarket parts like body panels lower the value of your vehicle.
For what it’s worth the party at fault insurance company owes you depreciation if it’s legal in your state. Your vehicle, even if repaired with genuine OEM parts has lost value when you go to sell it, you are owed that difference in the form of a check.
Also, does anyone know how realistic it is to ask for my insurance company to pay me what the body shop estimated and then just buy these parts and do it myself?
My last settlement on body damage went very well...I had the insurance company claims rep look at the damage. I accepted his check for 20% more than the highest body shop estimate. The insurance rep couldn't care less about how I got it fixed. Moreover, if you become your own body shop, nothing will appear in the accident (carfax) history.