@Rickyd
Yes I had a good discussion with him about my goals. In the end, he suggested the HO cam profile with 1.7 roller rockers will do a good job balancing crawling/idle and highway performance with a stroker built around either crankshaft option. You can definitely go alot bigger if you want more top end power at the expense of the low end torque and idle smoothness. The old H.O. cam profile has a little more lift than the later TJ cams.
I'm following . You don't necessarily need to change the cam for a stroker build. IF your factory cam is in good condition, there are some good reasons to stick with it depending on what the goals are and you'll still get a massive bump in performance from the bottom end. Most people built from VERY worn or slightly damaged motors, so this isn't usually an option.
Roller Cam/Roller Lifter only - That's about $1,150 more than going with say a new Comp Cams 163-301-5 and the best available flat tappet lifters right now. You don't normally need a melonized gear on the standard cast cams but should do the higher end ACL cam bearings either way. Reaons to go with say an adjustable timing set are the same either way. The pushrod set for a roller lifter might be a bit cheaper as they'll be shorter.
Roller rockers - at least quality US made ones are around $550 for the 4.0 these days. If you like needle bearings shredding your engine internals, good luck with the Chinese knock offs. For whatever reason, they seem to be much more expensive than the V-8 sets despite 4 fewer rockers, even from the same manufacturers.