How we do it and as usual, you are welcome to do it however you like, but there's a whole bunch of "knowledge" about stuff that gets repeated as "truth" that really isn't.
1- pull cover, peel off the big strings of smooshed out cured RTV.
2- scrape diff side with a single edge razor blade perpendicular to surface to get the large bits off.
3- repeat for cover.
4- apply Mopar gear oil specific RTV so that when smoothed out, it is about 1/16" thick.
5- install cover using top bolt and taking care to not slide cover sideways and smear the RTV around.
6- install rest of bolts, then tighten all of them.
7- fill with gear oil.
Here is the logic. Mopar RTV is formulated for oily surfaces, so we just spray a bit of brake cleaner on a rag and give both sealing surfaces a quick wipe. If we leave some smallish bits of RTV in the low spots by just scraping, they are doing just that, filling the low spots and that's what we want. Putting new RTV over old RTV down in the low spots doesn't hurt a thing, it got there by filling the low spot so what difference does it make? If we scrape it lower than the top of the high spots, the new layer will go into the spot and still fill it so again, what difference does it make? We never wait on the RTV to cure before we fill with oil and here's why.
The oil has a very small amount of hydrostatic pressure. Recall how much force it takes to push the RTV out of the tube through the relatively large hole you poked in the seal under in the nozzle end to get it onto the sealing surface. The oil would have to have a higher amount of force to displace the RTV in that very thin layer trapped between the two surfaces and that simply isn't possible.
The last and single most important thing that I rarely see mentioned is to take a bottoming tap and clean out the holes in the diff. Folks are rarely careful about how much RTV they get in the holes so it is possible to get a bolt started and have it "hydro-lock" on the old RTV and then break off before it bottoms out on the flange and gets tight.
Gaskets are used on gear swaps until the break in period is over and we change the oil at which point we toss the gasket and use RTV.
We can't use gaskets off road because the first time you bump the cover on a rock, it compresses the gasket, the cover springs back and now we have a leak.